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We asked one of our clients… What steps should parents take to help you in your addiction? … before recovery, during recovery and for life in sobriety? Below is his honest response and opinion to what he would tell his parents on how they can help. We hope that his perspective shared below can some how help you as a parent to understand your own son, what he might be feeling and going through. We are here to talk to you and help you with your son’s recovery. Give us a call today.
B2B: What steps should parents take to help you in your addiction? … before recovery, during recovery and for life in sobriety?
Client’s Reply: In my opinion, to help my parents understand addiction, they should research and make healthy boundaries to set up around me and my manipulation. I also feel like my parents should go to Al-Anon meeting to further comprehend setting up healthy boundaries. Other preventive measures include the separation and cut off if I’m active in my addiction. My parents love me unconditionally, and I know I can manipulate them to get what I want; therefore, the term ‘enable’ should be thoroughly clarified and my parents should understand the difference between enabling me and healthy support. Another step my parents should take to help me in my addiction is setting up conditions to ensure I’m doing the right thing and progressing in life; as a result if I do break any of those proposed conditions, they can cut me off and not support me.
Some of these steps are crucial in my addiction and creating a healthy relationship and understanding the development of addiction is critical for my parents to realize and know what healthy boundaries are and how far enabling can go.
Parent’s Help Before Recovery
If I’m in my active addiction using heroin, the steps my parents should take is to completely cut me off, not talk to me, and understand that I need complete isolation from me. They should not have contact with me, and until I ask for help, they need to abandon me for the better.
Parent’s Help During Recovery
During my recovery, the steps my parents should take is to let me be on my own and learn to separate from me so I can create my own life and learn to follow through with responsibilities. Contact is acceptable but only very little. I need to learn to be self-sufficient, and the only way to do that is having as little financial support from my parents as possible.
Parent’s Help For Life In Sobriety
For life in sobriety, my parents need to be clear on boundaries and understand that I need to start my own life.
Here at Back2Basics, we are ready to help your son. Our program is comprised of 12 Steps as our client referred to in his response above, as well as outdoor adventure recovery and residential long-term living. CLICK HERE to learn more about our Back2Basics program and how we can help you starting today.